In-person in PASADENA & online across CA
Therapy for Grief
"No one talks about how lonely grief is — even when you're surrounded by people."
"I feel like I'm supposed to be over this by now."
"I'm not just grieving the person. I'm grieving the future we'll never have."
Sound familiar?
GRIEF DOESN'T HAVE A TIMELINE.
Grief is not something you "get over" or "move through" in neat, predictable stages. It's messy, nonlinear, and deeply personal — and it's not just about death. You can grieve relationships that ended, versions of yourself you've lost, futures that will never happen, or people who are still alive but no longer present in the way they once were.
Most people experiencing grief aren't falling apart every day — they're managing, functioning, even having moments of joy. But underneath is someone carrying profound loss, navigating waves of emotion that surface without warning, and often feeling profoundly alone even when surrounded by support.
Grief can look like numbness, anger, guilt, or bone-deep exhaustion. It can feel physical — a tightness in your chest, an ache that won't lift. It's the loneliness of missing someone or something no one else is talking about anymore. It's not knowing who you are without them. It's loving someone and being angry at them simultaneously. It's guilt over good days, or fear that healing means forgetting.
You don't need to be "over it." You need space to grieve in your own way, at your own pace — and support for carrying what can't be fixed.
Explore
past experiences
How you grieve now is shaped by how loss was handled in your past. If grief wasn't acknowledged or validated in your family, if you learned to "be strong" or "move on quickly," or if earlier losses were never fully processed, those patterns are influencing how you're navigating this loss now.
We'll explore your history with grief, loss, and attachment — what you learned about expressing emotion, asking for support, and staying connected to people you've lost. Understanding these patterns helps you see why this grief might feel overwhelming, isolating, or impossible to move through.
identify
The root cause
Grief is always about loss, but what makes it unbearable is often what's underneath: unresolved attachment wounds, beliefs about whether you're "allowed" to grieve, fears about what it means to move forward, or guilt about things left unsaid or undone.
We'll identify what's compounding your grief — whether it's complicated feelings about the relationship, lack of closure, disenfranchised grief that others don't recognize, or the terror that healing means forgetting. Once you understand what's making this so hard, you can address those layers directly rather than just trying to "get through it."
uncover
What matters to you
Grief asks profound questions: How do I stay connected to someone I've lost? What do I carry forward, and what do I let go? Who am I now that this person or this part of my life is gone?
We'll help you find ways to honor what was while also making space for what's next. This isn't about "moving on" or "letting go" — it's about integrating the loss into your life, finding meaning in the grief, and discovering how to carry your love forward even when the relationship has changed form.
I’m here to help with:
+ Grief from death, divorce, estrangement, miscarriage, pet loss, caregiver grief, complicated grief, ecological grief, or other significant losses society doesn't always recognize
+ Complicated emotions like guilt, anger, or relief mixed with sadness
+ Grief that others don't understand or validate
+Waves of emotion that resurface unexpectedly, no matter how long it’s been
+Feeling isolated when others have 'moved on' or expect you to
+ Finding ways to honor the loss while also moving forward
+Carrying your grief without being consumed by it
If you’re ready to…
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Stop waiting for grief to end and start finding ways to live alongside it
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Regain a sense of connection to yourself and your life
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Explore how to carry your grief without being consumed by it
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Create a life where grief and healing can coexist
…then let’s CONNECT.
Grief is not something
to get over. It's something to move through — with care, compassion, and the right support.
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No. Grief is the natural response to any significant loss — not just death. You can grieve the end of a relationship, a job you loved, your health, a friendship, a miscarriage, a pet, a version of yourself you'll never be again, or even futures that will never happen. You can grieve someone who's still alive but changed (dementia, addiction, estrangement). You can grieve places, communities, or even the planet (ecological grief). If you've lost something or someone that mattered to you, your grief is real and deserves support — regardless of whether others understand or validate it.
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Nothing is wrong with you. Grief doesn't have a timeline, and it doesn't follow the "stages" model most people think it does. The idea that grief is linear — denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance — is a myth. Grief is messy, nonlinear, and personal. You can cycle through emotions in any order, skip some entirely, or feel multiple things at once. And grief doesn't end just because time has passed. It changes, it softens, it resurfaces — but there's no deadline for "being over it." Anyone pressuring you to hurry through grief doesn't understand how it actually works.
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Yes. Grief is rarely just sadness. It's common to feel guilt (for things said or unsaid, for surviving, for having good days), anger (at the person who died, at the situation, at yourself), relief (especially if the relationship was difficult or the person was suffering), or even numbness. You can love someone deeply and still be angry at them. You can grieve a loss and also feel relieved it's over. These aren't contradictions — they're the complexity of grief. Therapy can help you hold all of these feelings without judgment.
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I don't treat grief as something to "get over" or rush through. I help you understand your unique grief — why it's showing up the way it is, what's underneath it (attachment wounds, unresolved losses, complicated feelings), and how to integrate it into your life rather than being consumed by it. I work with all types of grief, including non-traditional losses that others might not validate. I integrate EMDR (for traumatic aspects of loss), somatic work (for grief held in the body), and depth psychology (for meaning-making and continuing bonds). This isn't about moving on. It's about learning to carry your grief — and your love — forward.
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Schedule a Free Consultation and choose a time that works for you. We'll spend 20 minutes on the phone talking about what you're looking for and whether my approach feels like a good match. If it does, we'll schedule your first session and get started. If not, that's okay too — I'm happy to provide referrals to other therapists who might be a better fit.